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Walking away from narcistic abuse

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Its hard sometimes yes, especially if you loved the individual, but walking away is the only way to win. I have walked away, yet still feel the abuse, but I know eventually I will have the last laugh.

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I will be explaining the relationship, more so in my next post, as this one is about walking away.

Now it could be anyone in our life whether its a parent,child,lover,friend,sibling or other relative. Yes it can feel shameful to just up and leave, but why hold on to something that makes you feel worthless and BRI gs you down. If this person cared so much about you, they would lift you up,not push you down, where as they are still standing.

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These people are weak, and will do anything to make you seem weaker, thus making them seem like the stronger and better person. They can’t accept their faults, and will never admit to being wrong,or their feelings of misdoubt. The only way they feel better about themselves is making sure you feel lower than them, or at their level. If you do not give them the attention or satisfaction that they deserve, you are immediately in the wrong. You can try all you want , but they will never change. If you tell them what kind of person they are,they will never admit it, and just tell you , your faults, changing the subject, so it turns back on you.
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No one needs toxic people in their life, why surround yourself with negativity and drama??your better than that.
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The best thing to do, is focus on the one person who truly matters, you know who that is??? Yes you, its you. Do what ever makes you happy, once you got rid of the narcissist,they can no longer control you. Life is once again in your hands.
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Like the saying goes, the world is your oyster. Its your life, your ways, you,you,you. I’m not saying become egotistical, and make it all about you, but don’t allow anyone to make you feel down, and less than you are. We are all unique, and we are all individuals. No one can ever change who you are, so don’t let it be that way.
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Smile, laugh and be near people who make you feel that way, and be proud you were strong enough to walk away from someone who made you feel the latter. No one is ever worth the headache and or/heartache

Walking away is the only way to show a narcissist that they no longer have you under their control.

Living with a narcissist

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It took me a long time to realize, but the answers were there all the time. Narcissist’s seem like good genuine people at first. They make you feel special, and they seem to shine, and everyone loves them, what no one sees is they hide behind a mask.
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It takes time, but eventually you cone from a “close bond”, to a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship. It took a long time for me to realize, what was going on. It wasn’t until we shared a home and lived together that I saw them behind closed doors. Eventually I was always brought down, nothing I did mattered and I was becoming less and less happy, and for a while I did believe it was my fault. I tried and tried, to make them happy and off my case, but nothing seemed to work. I should of seen this long ago because the way they acted in past friendships and relationships. They cheat, they lie, they do anything to be in the center of everyones attention. They can disregard you, for speaking your mind. They ac as if they can never do any wrong
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I have been told I am selfish, when all I did, was for them. I have been told I am worthless, disrespectful, and that I was taking advantage of them. Then they turn around and wonder why I am being so hard to deal with, never listining to my voice of reason,since they were they ones who made me feel like crap. I stopped trying, I left and stopped most contact, my family isn’t on my side, because they have been manipulated and brain washed to believe, once agian ,as usual. I am in the wrong. I have become very misunderstood, and constantly talked down too, no one seems to take my side. It hurts, but not much I can do.
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How do you know you are involved with a narcist??

1)they have a great need of attention and affection
2) if you try to prove them wrong, they will burn you
3)they are always right
4)they use others/their own pain and suffering for their own attention
5)they will talk about others behind their back,and make ppl think that person is a bad guy
6)manipulative
7)they own you, and anything you have
8)be fake, lie,cheat, and gossip
9)don’t care about you unless you give them power
10) can’t be alone
11)bring you down, when your a good person
12) turn ppl against you

I could go on, but these are some factors.
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If you ever end up abused, walk away and leave, its the only way you can win
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I left, sure I am living with the circumstances, but it sure beats living in a home where I am always talked down too, and can’t do anything right. I just hope someday my family will see my side, and maybe the narc, will understand I loved them, I still do, but I just can’t live with you, and now that I seen who you truly are, it will be hard for me to see you as I once did.

I may follow up on this topic more, more details and what not.